Have you ever had one of those moments when God lays something heavy on your heart and you know you have to spit it out even though you don’t exactly know where or how to begin? This is one of those moments for me lol. I’m hoping as I write, my mind will clear up a little bit and I can convey the message I’m trying to desperately to get across.
Your purity is precious.
It doesn’t have to be because of religion. If you are someone who simply values your purity because it’s something that’s special to you, this is for you too.
If at any point there is someone who makes you feel uncomfortable or disrespected, you have the right to walk away – no need for apologies or explanations.
I get it, it’s a no-brainer. The thing I tend to be guilty of – and it’s probably a Type 2/people pleaser thing – is that even in the face of blatant disrespect of my values, I would still feel the need to be the bigger person, to explain myself, to apologize for things not working out – in other words, apologize for having the values that I do.
But then, sometimes you have an epiphany and realize that things have to stop being a certain way.
I told myself when it comes to something as special and precious as my purity being disrespected, it’s time to stop being sorry. I have no business being sorry over it. It’s time to stop acting like I need a “good reason” to cut ties.
The problem with the mindset that I have to apologize + explain myself that it leaves me trying to please man + hope that they’ll approve my explanation of why I’m not having it.
“Am I now trying to win the favor and approval of men, or of God? Or am I seeking to please someone? If I were still trying to be popular with men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.”
— Galatians 1:10 (AMP) —
The more I try and justify myself to man, it feels like I’m doing less to please God. Instead of letting Him be enough, I put so much weight in orchestrating the perfect explanation when the truth is this – God is enough. His love and His desires for me are enough. And I know His heart enough to know that the man I’m supposed to be with is someone who won’t try to overstep.
Dating culture has become so over-saturated with sex. But regardless of how normalized it’s become, we don’t owe anyone an explanation when they’ve tried to cross boundaries that disrespect + impose on our values. Your promise to yourself + God is the only thing that matters and that’s a good enough reason to put your foot down.
To clarify, I’m not saying to be rude or hurtful; but there is line where we have to respect ourselves and our values enough to be plain + simple without overthinking it.
Be true to yourself. Be true to the One that gave his life for you. Be steadfast in your convictions and keep the faith. You don’t have to be sorry.
“…for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. ”
— 1 Corinthians 6:20 —